Last Updated on March 24, 2023 by Ray
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a specific type of mental condition in which a person possesses a highly inflated sense of their own self-importance. It is also characterized by an excessive need for attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a distinct lack of empathy for others. Narcissistic individuals will often wear a mask of extreme confidence.
However, their self-esteem tends to be very fragile and vulnerable in the face of even minor criticism. Narcissists typically fall into patterns of narcissistic abuse in their personal relationships, which often involves lying, manipulation, gaslighting, neglect, verbal abuse, controlling behavior over others, isolation, character assassination, and love bombing.
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What is a Narcissistic Abuse Support Group?
Those who have been in abusive, toxic relationships with narcissists are very likely to suffer feelings of confusion, uncertainty, guilt, and worry that they are responsible for how they have been treated, even after the relationship is over. Narcissist support groups are where survivors of narcissistic abuse can share their experiences, learn from one another, and begin to heal from the trauma they have experienced.
By becoming part of a narcissist support group, survivors have a better chance of taking more control over their lives and living with confidence and happiness.
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What Are the Benefits of Joining a Narcissist Support Group?
Joining a narcissist support group can come with a wide range of benefits, but the largest comes from simply being around others who have gone through similar experiences. Exposure to other survivors can help people to re-discover themselves and assist in building up their lowered self-esteem. The understanding that one is not alone in the trauma they have faced is a valuable thing.
It provides narcissistic abuse survivors with the chance to learn from one another while having their feelings and experiences validated. They can also serve as an excellent foundation for developing new, deep relationships with others as survivors work to rebuild their lives and re-discover themselves.
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What Will You Learn in a Narcissist Support Group?
There are many lessons that narcissistic abuse victims will learn by participating in a narcissist support group, which will help them build up their self-confidence and start constructing a better life where they are the ones in control. Specifically, these groups tend to focus on teaching survivors the importance of setting boundaries and how to do so while also helping them deal with the complex and confusing emotions they are likely experiencing.
These groups also focus on assisting survivors in reclaiming their identity so they can live how they want to while also teaching them how to trust others again and open up to eventually start developing new, healthy relationships.
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The Top Narcissist Support Groups to Consider Joining
There are several different support groups, both in-person and online, that survivors of narcissistic abuse can join to start their journey towards health, happiness, and control over their lives. It’s a good idea to explore a range of different support groups to see which ones would best suit an individual’s specific needs and desires, but there are a few specific ones that are especially worth checking out.
Good Therapy is a fantastic online resource that has helped millions of narcissistic abuse survivors connect to specialized therapists, treatment centers, support groups, and other mental health resources around the country. The core purpose of their website is to make it as easy as possible for narcissist survivors to get whatever kind of help and support they need to start living a better, happier, and more fulfilling life that they have complete control over.
Good Therapy is also an excellent resource for individuals with narcissistic personality disorder to find effective treatments to help them manage their condition while teaching them how to foster caring, supportive, and loving relationships with the people in their lives.
A significant problem in society- aside from abuse in general- is that many individuals believe that men cannot be victims of abusive or toxic relationships, but that is very far from the case. Anyone can be a victim of abuse, especially at the hands of narcissistic partners, family, or other loved ones.
What’s worse, however, is that because of this prevalent belief, it is often challenging for men to locate safe, supportive spaces where they can talk openly about their feelings and experiences without encountering judgment, disbelief, or outright criticism. Men’s Group is a specialized, all-male online platform where men can receive the support and understanding they need to address their abuse and the complicated emotions and trauma resulting from it.
What Long-Term Effects Will You Experience Without the Help of a Narcissistic Abuse Support Group?
When involved in a narcissistic abuse situation, you may feel guilty, upset, or confused about situations that weren’t your fault but that you were blamed for. Some cases of narcissistic abuse involve public humiliation that is “just a joke” when confronted.
Even though narcissistic abuse is damaging, you can recover. One step toward recovery is joining a narcissistic abuse support group. Unfortunately, if you don’t take this step toward recovery, you may be left with long-lasting issues related to the ongoing cycle of abuse you experienced.
As the victim of narcissistic abuse, you may experience both mild and severe effects that plague you for the remainder of your life. A support group can help you overcome these effects and start living a normal, happy, and healthy life again.
Some of the common long-term effects you may experience include:
- Depression and anxiety
- Irritability and mood swings
- PTSD – post-traumatic stress disorder
- Lack of emotions
- Low self-worth
- Short-term memory loss
- Inability to forgive yourself
- Issues sleeping
- People-pleasing tendencies
- Trust issues
- Increased sensitivity to judgment or criticism
- The need to punish yourself with self-destructive behaviors
While the impact of the narcissistic abuse itself is not fatal and will not cause your death, the long-term effects on your mind and life may cause life-threatening behaviors. Because of this, it is best to use the resources available to you, including a narcissistic abuse support group, which can help you learn to deal with and overcome these issues.
Final Thoughts and Considerations
Like any other form of abuse, narcissistic abuse is terrible, and no one should ever have to endure it, especially not alone. If you have been suffering in such a relationship, please understand that you are not the only one. There is a vast range of quality resources and support groups available to help you move forward with your life and take back your happiness and control over your life. Aside from getting help from a support group, you can find a variety of books to educate yourself. Two that we recommend are:
- Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare – This book by Shahida Arabi addresses questions such as: What successful techniques, tools, and healing modalities (both traditional and alternative) are available to survivors who have been ridiculed, manipulated, verbally abused, and subject to psychological warfare? What can survivors do to better engage in self-love and self-care? How can they forge the path to healthier relationships, especially if they’ve been a victim of narcissistic abuse by multiple people or raised by a narcissist?
- Who’s Pulling Your Strings? – This read by Dr. Harriet Braiker can help you identify those who use manipulation tactics to control you and provides tips to break the cycle of these manipulations.
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27 thoughts on “The Best Narcissistic Abuse Support Groups”
Hi, I’m in Keene NH. I’ve been majorly affected by my narcissistic gaslighting daughter. I’m still trying to process it and have been trying to move on. But with the many circumstances, I cannot!
Hi Gina, I’m very to sorry hear this. We have great resources available on our blog but please let us know if there is anything further we can do to help!
I right there with you Keene. I’m trying to distance myself from my daughter but she has 3 of my grandchildren whom I adore. It’s very hard to walk away 😔
I have been in a 7 year narcissist abuse relationship, if you want to call it that. He popped in and out of my life, ghosting me, to be correct. I just fell for my last hover Jan 3 2022 and by March, I found out that he had a girl and a baby on the way. He disgusted me, but kept calling me for money. Then today I go on Facebook to find out he proposed to her. Smdh… I need help to end the on going pain. I just want to heal and more on with my life but I’m stuck in this Trauma Bond.
I am just putting a name to the abuse I have and still being subjected to. I need help.
Hi Joy, that sounds like real progress! Please feel free to connect with me if you need support during this time.
I’m currently divorcing my Narcissistic husband after 17 years of emotional abuse. Being criticised, not shown love, belittled, the list is endless. I have a new partner now who loves me unconditionally but now I’m left feeling angry that I didn’t leave the husband years ago. He’s dragging out the divorce because it still gives him some control. I actually hate him and I don’t hate anyone in life.
I was wondering if you hold a support group over the weekend ? Please let me know what times are available over the weekends or after 5 pm during the week ?
Hi Simona, I will be reaching out directly! Looking forward to speaking with you.
I eas wondering if there are any support groups in N. Colorado?
I am currently living with my ex- boyfriend who is a narcissist. Belittling, threatening, gaslighting, etc. I’m trying to move out. We both are on the lease, and I am trying to find a way to get out of the lease.
Where is a group? I don’t need more talk therapy, that hasn’t helped a lot. I’ve been diagnosed with C-PTSD, and it is quite physical. It has taken a huge toll on my body; it drives me crazy people think it’s a mood or something to get over by a good talk.
I would love to find people who have been through it, not studied it. I would never have believed this if I had not experienced it.
you are right, it is very physical… I went through some great energy healing sessions when the practitioner literally took this heaviness out of my body/energy field. I stopped get triggered and feeling “bad”. I would say that I reached zero level when my memories are lacking “emotional charge”, and the current occasional communication with the narcissist does not hurt… I am still sad and not super joyful, but do not suffer from physical pain caused by stored emotions.
I’m here! I’m dealing with a NPD and I can’t deal anymore! I’m stressed and depressed!
Hey Alyx! I’m sorry to hear you are dealing with narcissistic abuse. Please reach out if you need to talk.
Hi I’m looking for narcissistic recovery support groups in the metro Detroit Michigan area
I would love to join a group in person to help me over come living with a narcissist for the past 21 years. I left the marriage 18 months ago.
I’m still finding it difficult managing my thoughts and feelings as his still in my life as I share three children I feel like there is no escaping from him.
I abused by a narcissistic from 2021-2022 January..I want to heal..I need a healthy life and healthy relationship..plz help me ..really I need help..7001402652my contact and Wp no if someone wants tk help me then plz contact me
Hello… I’m lookn for a support group. I’m in Mesa Az. Raised by a violent Narc, married a Narc 20yrs, last BF was a violent Narc 4ys. I’m 4months outa that relationship doin NoContact & I need some supprt. Had to get restraining order. Have a great counselor. Attend Alanon support group. Need more help with this…
Where do I begin… I need help surviving my adult daughter’s narcissistic behavior. I’ve been abused by her for 20 years. She has 3 children (my grandchildren) that I love and adore but have been cut off from them for the most part. I have no idea why other than her narcissistic behavior. I know that I am a good mother and a very loving grandmother. She seems jealous of my relationship with her children and anytime I try to talk to her she blows up. HELP! Is there a support group online that I can join for victims of their narcissistic adult children?? Thank you, Cindy
Please…my sister is my N. Very close for years until I discovered the gaslighting. Even though she has said and done horrible things to me, I would still invite her back into my life. However, I do believe she has thrown me away this time for good. I’m desperately trying to figure out how to go on I love her and I miss her…what is wrong with me?
It’s so hard to move on after being in a Narcissist marriage and finding out just how much deceit there really was!
I am married to a narcissist man who I just thought was selfish but after lots of research I discovered what he is
As time has gone on he has switched from being self absorbed to being just interested in himself
His narcissistic rages are toxic and cruel
He says terrible hurtful things
Bullying and financially secretive
Outwardly he appears in public to be a totally different person
I am constantly walking on eggshells
I knew my husband is controlling in certain ways and is emotional abusive when he talks to me a lot of the time. I didn’t realize it as narcissism. Some of the feelings I have had from many of his ways helped me realize this. I allowed myself to abuse alcohol as a very unhealthy way of dealing with the situation when I get home many evenings. My grown son has talked with me about how it effected him growing up which I didn’t realize. My stepchildren weren’t with us all the time growing up but have seen some of these narcissist traits in their Dad. My husband is not in good health now and so also dealing with this strain. Really could use a support group for other wives dealing with this.
Lost in the maze of emotions. I feel I’m circling the drain, he is currently ghosting me AGAIN, he is still here and it is ongoing. From my sick parents to him? HOW? WHEN? WHERE? But never ask WHY. NO WHY! I’m a survivor of rape, this feels kinda awful like that one day. This day never ends 42 years and counting.
This is first time I see others discussing how daughter has become abuser, its never acknowledged that the npd then uses family to turn on you. Its a living hell no one wants to believe is real due to how ugly it as ll is. Makes any life after all but impossible.
I’ve tried for 10 years to find help but none of these counselors have experience other then what anyone can learn reading articles. They enjoy my telling them stories, even had last one ask me to write book and she’d help??? Her having to look up info I know and tell her about. No help in courts it’s the biggest scam how men all stick together to make any woman shut up or they will be made to look like the Crazy one. Truly even women judges blow off anything abused try to explain about the insane abuse and impossible living conditions while going threw courts how entire family had been turned and twisted to go from trusting always and believing 100% in the abused one to suddenly after the npd had tome to work on them without them knowing slowly turned them to seeing how he is the victim same as he convinced them anytime he saw them upset with his victim he swooped in telling them how sorry he is for how they are being treated so badly after enough times he slips in how he has felt same for years but never felt he could speak of cause no one else saw it till now. Npd uses kindness (fake) to sway them over to his side to suddenly begin to believe all lies from the one you’ve always counted on all their lives wasn’t who they thought but instead bad and the abuser always quiet and never disturbing peace to keep his cover is really supppsed victim. He explained what and how he did it and told me no one would believe me if I told. Same abuse I got from little sister as a child. She was proud that any lie she tild my family theys believe over me and she would gloat to me about it. Then have me beat up or punished by mom or brother. Insane how I broke free in early 20s had great life I thought only to find myself where I began.